Julia Roberts’ Pals Are Worried She’s ‘Bending Herself’ to Accommodate This Need of Her Husband’s, Insiders Claim

Julia Roberts and Danny Moder have long been one of Hollywood’s long-lasting couples, but recent reports suggest trouble may be brewing beneath the surface. Despite a public show of affection on Valentine’s Day — when Roberts shared a rare, intimate photo with Moder as the breakup rumors started up — their relationship continues to spark concern among friends.

Adding fuel to the fire was the sale of one of their homes back in November, leaving many wondering about the state of their ultra-private relationship. “Even though they’ve kept their place in Malibu, they’re hardly ever there,” an insider told In Touch. “They’ve gotten to this place in their marriage where they seem to want to shut the world out.”

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Roberts, who enjoys living more publicly, reportedly planned a move to San Francisco, buying a $8.3 million historic Edwardian-style home in 2020. However, “Danny resisted,” says the source. “It’s an open secret that she’d prefer to live a more visible life, but that’s just not Danny’s style.” This difference in lifestyle preferences has raised concerns among her friends, with one insider noting, “There’s a lot of concern among her friends that she’s bending herself to suit his needs. That isn’t going to go well.” Moder, a director, reportedly preferred to stay in Los Angeles to remain close to Hollywood.

“When they’re seen, like they were during Oscars week, they come across as happy,” noted the source. “But they’re one of those couples that has very serious highs and lows.” Despite these appearances, the underlying tensions seems to be evident to her inner circle, particularly in how Roberts has navigated their public and private lives. “She’s prioritized family over Hollywood,” the source explained. “Even if people worry she’s deliberately pushed friends away.”

Roberts and Moder’s story began on the set of The Mexican in 2000. They share three children: twins Hazel and Phinnaeus, aged 19, and Henry, who is just about to turn 17. Their relationship has not been without its controversies, either; Moder allegedly split with his first wife to be with Roberts.

While friends worry that Roberts is sacrificing her own desires for her marriage, it seems like she is making choices with her entire family in mind. Balancing personal happiness with marital harmony is challenging, and only time will reveal how Roberts manages this particular hurdle in her marriage.

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